What if all of the darker emotions had vital messages for us?

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What if envy had a vital message?  

 What if all of the darker emotions like rage, shame, anger even hatred had vital messages for us?  

What if being true to yourself means honouring all of the emotions?

Emotions are metaphorically the element of water within us.  The idea of the 4 Elements appears in many traditions and cultures around the world.  The Kabbalah, Astrology, The Tarot, Native American wisdom – all of these use the idea that we’re made up of the 4 basic elements of earth, water, air and fire.  These 4 elements correspond to different part of our earthly human selves:

Earth – the physical body

Water – the emotions

Air – thoughts and beliefs, the intellect

Fire – our creativity, imagination, intuition and psychic ability 

Having total wellbeing means that all 4 elements are working in harmony with each other and are balanced.  The problem we have in western societies is that the air element tends to overpower all the others.  In many education systems, intellectual achievement is valued over everything else.  But wiser schools and colleges know that creativity (fire), movement in the physical body (earth) and emotional intelligence (water) are just as vital to our overall intelligence as pure academic work is.

And the problem in a lot of spiritual circles is that there’s a jump from air to fire without the grounding and wisdom of water and earth.  It’s what leads to spiritual by-passing and stopping legitimate expression of emotion that leads to being wholly human and to fully healing deep wounds.

The Deeper Wisdom Of Darker Emotion

The darker emotions (water) like envy, anger, fear and shame are only darker because we rarely bring them into the light of awareness.  But when we take the time to listen to their messages, they can give us invaluable insights to navigate whatever we’re facing and find the truth of it.  The deeper truth is always healing.

Whenever I feel one of the darker emotions come up, my first place to look it up is Karla McLaren’s excellent book “The Language of Emotions”.   And her incredible research and experience will always guide me home.  

Emotions are responses to our environment – both the external environment (around our physical bodies) and in response to our internal beliefs and thoughts.  When we get the thinking parts of our minds to connect up with and work with the emotional parts of our minds, we get more control over our state and can move through problems and issues with more ease.  Life is richer and fuller.  The elements of air and water work together in harmony.

But when the thinking part of the mind is cut off from the emotions, we can buy into collective thinking and ideas that stunt our own development and keep us small or even deluded about the effects of what we’re doing.  

For example, the collective idea that emotions are primitive and dumb and should never be on show became a collective belief about emotions.   Living from this intellect-centred view shuts off a vital part of ourselves that brings integrity to our whole systems.  We have the evidence of what a lack of emotion does to us – humans can commit unspeakable acts of violence and cruelty when there is no regulation from emotions, such as in the case of some psychopaths, sociopaths and extreme narcissists.  

On a smaller level, in dealing with our own unconscious racism and prejudices, feeling shame is a gateway to having the kind of empathy that lets us really hear the stories of people experiencing our unconscious racism.  Then we can really make the kinds of changes that usher in a fairer world. 

An Example of Going Deeper into Envy

When I’ve noticed my own envy coming up about other people’s business successes, following the feelings of envy lead to far greater insight and far deeper healing.  Karla (the author of The Language of Emotions) differentiates between jealousy and envy.  She says that jealousy is about unfaithfulness or deceit in close relationships whereas envy is about “unfair distribution of resources or recognition”.  In my struggling days in my business, boy, oh boy did that resonate for me!  “Why do all these other business owners get to have thriving businesses (i.e. good income) and recognition when I’m struggling?”  The clue to answering this question my mind invented is in Karla’s empathic practice for dealing with envy:

Discern whether you’re responding to disloyalty and unfairness in others or to your own lack of self-regard and worthiness.  In either case, restore your boundaries first; then listen to your intuition and honor the anger and fear inside…envy.

The Language of Emotions, p.263

What an insight!  My envy was really about my own lack of self- regard and worthiness and it’s OK to feel that and to acknowledge it.  The inner work was to dive into it and see what guidance my intuition had for me.  Karla has another gem of an explanation of diving into envy:

When your envy is welcomed and channelled honorably, it will help you uncover unhealed issues and traumas that continue to haunt your present-day behavior.  p.276

When I did deep dive into it, sure enough, there was an unhealed trauma and belief about being abandoned.  Eventually when I dug even deeper after experiencing lots of the “darker” emotions like rage, shame, envy and even terror, I uncovered my deepest wound that was holding everything back so it could finally be returned to love.  The darker emotions were allies to help me safely go into the depths of the wound AND to be careful about who I kept close during that vulnerable healing journey.  

Don’t Pathologise Emotion – Instead Trust The Deeper Message

By taking the time to stop, listen in and honour the insights that come from the water and earth elements (the emotions and the body), it brings us into the present moment, it brings deep acceptance of life and it helps to honour all the variety and diversity of life experiences that we all have.  It helps create good boundaries between us so we can fully honour each others’ uniqueness.

And honouring that uniqueness brings richness and depth to life’s experiences.

So next time you feel one of those darker emotions, don’t pathologise it or think there’s something wrong with you.  Trust that the healthy water element in you has something important for you to notice.  Don’t rush it, give the water element space to flow and bring through it deep messages.  

If you need help, it’s wise to choose a practitioner that you feel safe with and that can demonstrate that they’ve done this deeper work themselves.  Trust that your subconscious mind will keep you safe and your intuition will help guide you to the right person for you.  And definitely get your hands on Karla’s incredible book or her insight-packed free articles on her blog. 

Trust In Yourself

Trust in…

  • your emotions
  • your body
  • your heart
  • your soul
  • your intuition
  • your spiritual gifts and abilities
  • your ability to change your thoughts
  • your ability to learn
  • your ability to set boundaries
  • your bullshit detector
  • your ability to heal the past
  • life’s wisdom
  • what life brings you
  • the idea of life happening for you
  • your ability to change the unconscious programmes running your life
  • your ability to ask for help from the right people
  • your ability to find the perfect people to help you with everything you need
  • your ability to discern who to trust and who not to trust
  • your life experiences as valuable lessons and insights to others
  • your ability to inspire others with your truth
  • your wildest, craziest dreams and visions

Trust in yourself, beautiful soul.  Trust in yourself.   <3

The Mysterious Power of The Silent Minute

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Join the silent minute this advent with me live on my FB page.

What is “The Silent Minute”

The founder of Chalice Well Gardens in Glastonbury, Wellesley Tudor Pole, started the Silent Minute during the 2nd World War. Every evening at 9pm, people were asked to spend 1 minute to pray for peace. Tudor Pole was inspired by words spoken to him by a fellow British officer during the 1st World War who knew he wouldn’t survive but that Tudor Pole would. The power of the silent minute is said to have been acknowledged by a German officer after the 2nd World War ended:

“secret weapon for which we could find no counter-measure and whih we did not understand, but it was very powerful. it was associated with the striking of Big Ben at 9 o’clock each evening. I believed you called it “The Silent Minute”.

High-ranking German Officer after the war ended in 1945

This summer on 8/8/19, I visited Chalice Well in Glastonbury and decided to become a companion (a member) of Chalice Well. I went there to help set powerful intentions for peace and my book writing. As a companion, I recently received the member’s magazine where I found an article on The Silent Minute and found it absolutely fascinating and inspiring. As I read, I felt a powerful sense of wanting to join in and to encourage others to join with me.

Not Quite War, But Certainly Not Peace

During the chaotic times we’re living in, we may not be at war, but we’re certainly not at peace. Although it’s my belief that the chaos and division is helping us to become aware of where we’re not at peace and to make the necessary changes to come back to peace. And with more and more abuses of power coming out of the shadows and into the light, we’re living in shifting times.

Being able to hold different opinions and perspectives without feeling threatened by any differing views – no matter how emotionally they may be expressed – is the foundation of deep inner peace. And that means knowing yourself and creating a strong sense of peace and security inside.

It’s also about healing ourselves to create that deep sense of peace inside that opens the space for extraordinary creativity to flourish. Solutions we couldn’t even imagine can come through when we commit to connecting with the divine help and inspiration that is said to come through in practices like the Silent Minute.

“The power of silence is greater than you know.”

Words said to be spoken to Wellesley Tudor Pole (founder of Chalice Well in Glastonbury) by a fellow British officer during combat in December 1917

The Power Of Intention

In my last blog, I talked about the work of Lynne McTaggart on the power of intention. I heard her speak at the Hay House “I Can Do It” event in October – after being guided to volunteer there by my intuition. You can read that blog here.

Lynne found that groups of people coming together with intentions to help someone else or for peace in a particular place, often resulted in occurrences like a drop in violence. While there’s no way to say the intentional prayer actually caused the drop in violence, there was a far more interesting result that was much clearer. Those who joined in the intentional prayer found themselves being helped much more in their lives too.

So putting these 2 accounts together, you can see that coming together with powerful intentions for peace and to join the seen and unseen worlds, has enormous potential to bring about a powerful force that flows through you and helps you as you intend to help others.

The Silent Minute This Advent

While the world is in chaos and division, this powerful peace prayer can help us to align with our part in the bigger plan for humanity. Creating that connection to higher wisdom, guidance and creativity to bring through the solutions we need for to bring about more peace in our own lives and the wider world.

If you fancy joining a group of people doing the Silent Minute, please do come and join me this Advent on my Facebook page at 9pm GMT every evening. There might the odd day where it’s a video instead of a live stream but mostly it’ll be live to feel that sense of community and connection more easily. There’s no set way to use the minute, just set the intention to help the planet or people you know and allow the collective intention to work through you.

There’s no need to sign up or join a group – just come along to the FB lives and do the Silent Minute with us. Who knows what might happen? I can’t wait to do this with you and see what emerges. 🙂

Deal With Other’s Negativity… by Choosing Love

Last month, I was in Japan retaking my ThetaHealing Instructor’s training and assisting on the courses. This time it took my understanding of what ThetaHealing® – and all energy healing – is really about to another level.
– yes, you can make parts of your life better
– yes, you can make relationships better
– yes, you can feel more connected
– yes, you can calm emotions and thoughts
But there’s more to it.

Negative Attention
Perhaps the worst thing that happened on my ThetaHealing journey was seeing it on Newsnight (a BBC news programme in the UK).  And it was not painted in a positive light at all!  It was made to look like some cheap, faith-healing trick that cons people out of money and makes up wild stories about healing.  It was so unfairly painted and having only been using ThetaHealing for 2 years, I was mortified.  Derren Brown tweeted the link too and as he’s someone I really admire, it added to the dismay and disappointment.  I didn’t want to be associated with something that could be painted so badly.

On the training, Josh & Raena (the teachers) and I chatted about that incident.  It was actually really good to talk to them about it and hear their take on it.  It’s written about in Vianna’s book “On the Wings of Prayer” (my Amazon affiliate link to the book).   It only made ThetaHealing stronger and Josh’s attitude to it, in particular, made me think “wow, he’s the real deal”.  He only had love for the people behind it and appreciated all the learning and growth it inspired. 

Dealing With Other’s Negativity
I guess one of my problems was that I fully expected that once you get to a certain spiritual level and you radiate love, everyone softens around you and life magically brings you everything you want.  I’d previously hypnotised myself with “The Secret” and I didn’t realise it glossed over the truth about living spiritually and manifesting.  That you can create your reality but you have to face your own mind and your fears along the way.  Incidents like the Newsnight programme shine a light on where you’re doubting yourself or fearing other people’s responses.

Love and positive vibes can trigger other people’s hidden issues in a BIG way.  Love shines a light on them for others too and if they’re not connected to their own capacity to create incredible things, it can turn to envy, criticism and resentment.  One of the things I’d had to learn in business building is to let go of trying to please everyone and to be able to deal with people being critical or judgmental about what I do – especially family.  I care about what people think, but I care more about the difference I’m here to co-create with people like you.  It’s hard but their criticism, envy and resentments aren’t about me.  It’s their stuff and it’s my job to see it through it to the wounds behind it.  

Moving to Love
The main goal of ThetaHealing is to get to a place of unconditional love.  A place where you can see what’s going on for people without getting involved in their drama.  You can get beyond judgments, criticisms and shaming – both your own and others to a place where your mind, your heart and every single cell in your body is so pure in love that can lift other people up.  That’s not to say there isn’t a whole load of other stuff going on in our hearts and minds, but that you choose love.  
No matter what.

With love
Jacqui xxx

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This Will Melt Your Heart

This story appears in “Authentic Success” by Robert Holden and it is stunningly beautiful. I do love it when deep wisdom is shared through a child’s voice.

“One lazy Sunday afternoon a busy businessman was hard at work entertaining a potential client at his home. The businessman had a young son of about 6 years old called David who kept running in and disturbing the negotiations.

David was bored, and he hoped daddy and his new friend might want to play. Each time David entered the room, his father gave him something to play with: first a pen, then a calculator, then a book to read.

Finally David’s father found a map of the world, which he tore up into 50 pieces. He gave David a roll of tape and asked him to return only when he had stuck the world back together again.

David returned after only 5 minutes with the map of the world complete again. His father was astonished. ‘How did you do that in such a short time?’ he asked.

‘Easy,’ replied David. ‘On the back of the map of the world I had already drawn a big picture of myself, and when I put myself together the world came together, also.’ “

This is what healing and therapy is all about – putting all our pieces back together again. And when we do that, we create a new world and inspire others to do the same. I’m seeing the ripple effects of my own hypnotherapy journey and how people (especially women) around me are stepping into more authenticity and power by claiming lost and hidden pieces of themselves. It’s the topic of the book I’m writing “Pieces to Peace”

One of the ways I’m helping people reclaim lost pieces is through hypnotherapy sessions. Hypnotherapy is what helped me to reclaim a deeply buried and unconscious sabotaging piece of myself. You can read more about that here.  

If you’d like to know more about how I can help you step into more inner peace, empowerment and authenticity and reclaim lost pieces of yourself, below is more information about my hypnotherapy package. Just email jacqui@jacquimcginn.com for more information or click here to book a free discovery session.

What Can Hypnotherapy Do For You?

My new certificate in hypnotherapy received on 20th January under the full moon <3

I’ve just qualified after 5 months of training in hypnotherapy formally. I was actually starting to work in hypnosis with my clients and found it was getting the best results to get clients to use their imagination to solve problems with my guidance. Now I’ve sharpened up my skills and have a bigger toolkit.

So how can it help you?

Well, hypnosis and hypnotherapy are fascinating processes that can work really well alongside spiritual healing. You might think of hypnotherapy as helping with problems like weight management, stopping smoking and anxiety or depression. But there’s more that hypnotherapy can do. If you know about The Law of Attraction teachings and manifesting, hypnotherapy can help uncover and change deep blocks to manifesting the life of your dreams too.

Blocks to Manifesting Dreams

To give you an example, during the training, I underwent really deep processes myself to help feel what they’re like for a client. Over the last few years, it’s felt like my life has been really held back and dragged back. No matter how many affirmations or healing sessions or inner work I did, or however many courses or coaches I invested in, that “held back feeling” just wasn’t shifting.

I knew I wasn’t expressing the whole of who I am. I knew I should really be more successful than I was and I tried everything to make it happen. Even my teacher was puzzled as to why I wasn’t more successful because I am bloody good at what I do. But those blocks were DEEP and they weren’t going to go without the depth of hypnotherapy. Energy healing went a long way to opening the door to finding my blocks to creating what I wanted, and then it was hypnotherapy that got to the root cause of the blocks to actually break them down. And I think the same will be true for many other natural healers. We’ve been healers since we were born and as healers, the first people we worked with were our families. Our healing skills got hidden in family dynamics as we tried to help our family members feel better.

My blocks were partially from trying to make my family feel better and partially from the helplessness of being an emotional child who didn’t feel understood. As a child, I had a “good girl” exterior but underneath it was a defiant streak! That defiant streak along with being a misery hoover for other people lead to that “stuck” and “held back” feeling that I was experiencing. My book writing is flying now after years of trying to get it down and I can see how my thoughts, actions and expectations had been holding me back in my business, in my life, in my book writing and in my relationships. I’m more assertive and comfortable asking for what I need and want without getting whingy or bitchy like I could do before (like a defiant child not trusting that she will get what she wants and needs, AND resenting that she’s carrying everyone else’s emotional baggage!)

Others who’ve been around me for a few years are noticing the shift in revealing my true self more and more as a result of the hypnotherapy work. I can see how I was trying to present a certain image of myself online that was more what I hoped other people would like and appreciate. But now I’m much more confident being really honest and showing up fully.

Life Improvements

And it’s not just me who’s benefitted. People with long-standing problems are finding relief and feeling so much better from the hypnotic tools I’ve been using. From people feeling miserable and down for years, to people who’ve had physical pain and discomfort eased in just one session.

So hypnotherapy can help with such a vast range of problems, it’s amazing. It usually goes back to thought patterns and behaviours that were created in early childhood – even physical problems can come from that too. Once you know how to unlock the subconscious mind and work with it, you see how it’s always been trying to help you. And it just needs a bit of help to change what it’s doing. And that change can happen fast.

If you’d like to chat with me about how I can help you or if my story resonates with you, do get in touch with me. You can contact me on jacqui@jacquimcginn.com or book yourself a free discovery session here: https://jacquimcginn.as.me/peacediscovery

The Online Space Is Full of Narcissism. Here Are The Narcissistic Sales Tactics.

Furious.  Frustrated.  Feeling stupid.  Feeling duped.  Feeling like a mug.  Relieved to hear you’re not the only one.  Boiling resentment.  Shame.

That’s how it can feel when you’ve been sold to by a narcissistic business owner – and trust me, I’ve been there myself!  In this post, I’ll use my studies of narcissism and work with my clients to help explain what’s going on and why it can be so difficult to shake the negative feelings associated with narcissistic relationships.

You probably recognise at least some of these characteristics of narcissistic business people, if not all.

  1. It’s very impressive – there might even be some really convincing facts and qualifications to make them seem highly credible
  2. It taps into your fears and seems to alleviate them e.g. lack of money in your business or getting more subscribers
  3. Often it involves making more money
  4. There’s a push to buy quickly
  5. No refunds or guarantees
  6. No review button on their FB page
  7. Plenty of NLP and mind triggers to get you to buy
  8. There’ll be a sob story and probably a rags-to-riches story too
  9. There’s an element of “poor me” going on so you feel you can’t complain
  10. They’ll use impressive sales statistics (and not show you how many people were actually satisfied with the product or service)
  11. They lie or twist the truth
  12. They might have a couple of people who achieved success around to give a testimonial, but genuine testimonials are few and far between
  13. After you’ve bought it, you realise the product or service you bought doesn’t do what they said it would do
  14. The product or service looks flashy and fancy, but has little substance when you actually start using it
  15. They have lawyers to shut down negative (honest!) reviews

So Why Do They Do This And Why Do You Go Along With It?

Well, let’s have a look at what narcissism is and what’s going on in that person.  The best explanation of narcissism that I’ve come across is by Dr Craig Malkin, author of “Rethinking Narcissism”.

His model is The Narcissism Spectrum Scale and we all fall on the scale somewhere between 0 and 10.  At 10 is full-on Narcissistic Personality Disorder and at 0 is what Dr Malkin calls “Echoism”.  In the original myth, Narcissus fell in love with his reflection in a pool and Echo fell in love with Narcissus.  But Echo had been cursed by Hera to only ever be able to repeat back what someone else has said, so when Narcissus said “who’s there?”, Echo could only repeat back “Who’s there?” and you can imagine how frustrating that conversation was!  Right in the centre of the Narcissism Spectrum Scale at 5, we have what Dr Malkin calls “Healthy Narcissism”.  Yes, there is such a thing as healthy narcissism.

Anyway, the key to this scale for Dr Malkin is specialness.   At the higher end, people have a need to be more special than everyone else around them.  At the lower end, people have a need for other people to be more special.  So you can see how dysfunctional but natural a relationship between a narcissist and an echoist would be.  What’s happening at 5 with healthy narcissism is that instead of my specialness being in relation to anyone else around, I’m special in my own right and I also know that you’re special too.  My specialness doesn’t diminish yours and your specialness doesn’t diminish mine.  In fact, both of us shine brighter when we acknowledge and celebrate each other’s specialness.

Narcissists and Echoists lack true self esteem and true heart-centred confidence in themselves, so they look to other people outside of themselves to provide it.  Healthy narcissists have near unshakeable confidence.  For sure, we can move up and down the scale according to circumstances and who we’re with, but those around the middle tend to have better awareness of when their specialness starts being compared to other people.

Specialness and Sales

So let’s go back to the sales of the narcissist.  They have a NEED to be more special than you, so they can’t create anything that would actually help you to outshine them.  On a heart level, there is deep pain and discomfort that they have built defence mechanisms around.  They’re trying to control the world outside themselves to maintain this special facade so they don’t have to go into that pain.  Realising that they’re no more special than anyone else would be a big blow to their vulnerable egos.

I don’t know for sure, but I wouldn’t be surprised if there is a deeply wounded and neglected inner child in there who is desperate for love and acceptance just as they are.  They don’t really want attention to be conditional on them being more special but it’s just too painful for them to go to the truth.  So they continue living a fantasy life – and that’s where the lies come from.

Can you see why you’re unlikely to be able to give feedback, review them or get a refund?   They can’t reflect truthfully and honestly.  Any hint of criticism will be met with fury (it might be veiled but it’s there) because it reflects their own deep insecurities.  And the refund would hit that all important money goal they have and use to wow people.  Look deeper and you’ll see they actually have money problems that they hide from others.

Why Did You Fall For It?

Don’t worry, it’s not a mirror of your true self.  Yes we can all be a bit narcissistic and egotistical from time to time, but there was more going on.  They tapped into your big dreams of reaching more people to help and they tapped into your desire for financial security.  If you’re reading this far, I’m pretty sure that you’re the type of person who cares deeply about people and who wants to help people in your business far more than you want loads of money.

Also, if you’re at the Echoist end of the spectrum, you’re a perfect dysfunctional match for a more narcissistic person.  They need to be more special and you’re more used to allowing other people to be more special than you.  You’re the perfect client to meet this need in them.

When they tapped into your big dreams and financial worries, it was done with manipulative techniques and it’s my belief that when a person taps into another  person’s subconscious mind to influence them for their own gain without conscious permission, a violation has happened.  Part of the difficulty in trying to let go and forgive is that a piece of them is lodged in you, in your energy system.  Since you can only heal and process energy that belongs to you, it’s really hard to let go of your stuck negative feelings because you can’t heal and process what isn’t yours.  Instead you need a way to get rid of their energy from your system.

There Is Hope

Clearing this stuff is what I do and I’ve been doing it for people with narcissistic family members, partners or spouses.  You don’t have to stay stuck with their energy and you most definitely can let it go.  The main technique I use to remove foreign energy in a person’s system is ThetaHealing and then I use a powerful forgiveness process as well.  Forgiveness really does bring about compassion and freedom from all kinds of sh*tty situations.

And if you recognise yourself as Echoist, you can absolutely go inside and change the beliefs keeping you trapped in the idea that everyone else is more special than you.  Because they’re not.  You’re here for a reason and your gifts, abilities and insights are needed and are very special.  Imagine a world of healthy narcissists where we all supported and uplifted each other, and offered quality products and services that helped our ideal clients shine and be more and more successful.

So your encounter with a narcissistic business person could well be your catalyst to greater authenticity and expanding into more of your true self to reach more of the people you’re here to serve.  Wouldn’t that be cool?

First Steps to Healing

I’ve created a meditation process to help you begin to get unstuck from these kinds of relationships and remember the higher truth of who you are.  Not every part of you fell for the narcissistic business person’s tricks, only a part of you did, so this meditation will remind you of that.  It’s a free thank you gift for signing up to my mailing list and you can find it here if you feel it calling you!

Christmas Light In The Darkness

It’s Christmas Eve and tomorrow is the day we’ve been building up to in Christian countries.  Pretty lights in the dark, decorations to lift our spirits, presents to delight loved ones and tons of food for those of us who are fortunate enough to have the family and funds to enjoy it all.

As 2016 draws to a close, I was pondering the symbolism of the Christmas story and the significance Christ could have nowadays.  2016 has been a tough year globally and it’s been a tough year for me personally.  Cancer, dementia and stroke have taken their toll on my loved ones.   The political promises built on clear lies, the extremism, the growing inequality… it can seem like the darkness is closing in.

Hope in the Darkness

Christmas comes just after the longest night in the Northern Hemisphere.  A bright star in the night sky announced the coming of a teacher of great love.  In spiritual circles, we talk of the Christ Consciousness – embodying the pure love of the great spiritual teachers like Jesus, Buddha, Gandhi and Kwan Yin.  All the religions and spiritual practices are in essence about connecting with this great source of love.  My family’s struggles with ill health have taught us to live more, appreciate more and be more present.

It’s our false selves or egos that make it seem that this great love is unavailable.  To be sure, the veil between our human selves and this great love can seem very thick.  But babies and young children radiate this pure love and see the world with eyes of wonder.  Their ego selves haven’t yet formed and they can delight in the pure joy and essence of Christmas.  Each of us maintains this pureness behind the tricks of the ego mind.

The Dropping Away of the False

So in these dark times, the essence of Christmas can give us hope that our false selves are gradually dropping away and revealing who we truly are:  sparks of a great divine love that can light up the darkness.

In case you didn’t catch this on Facebook – enjoy this little boy absolutely delighted by a visit from Santa <3 https://youtu.be/XCknt5JVPuI

Merry Christmas 2016

With Love

Jacqui xxx

 

Top Books For Getting Clarity On Your Soul’s Vision

Meaning and Clarity

Connecting with your Soul’s Vision is a powerful way to bring more meaning, self-belief and self-confidence into your life.  More than a “big why”, it can give you a “huge why” for the events of your life and the things you love to do.  I’ve created  a workbook of questions to help you unearth your Soul’s Vision.  To receive a free copy,  email me at jacquimcginn(@)yahoo.co.uk (obviously remove the brackets before you email me though!)

Here are the books that have helped me find enormous comfort, meaning and significance in the events of my life.  Enjoy!

Books to inspire you and help you find greater meaning in the events of your life now

  1. The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield
  2. The Celestine Prophecy: An Experiential Guide by Carol Adrienne and James Redfield
  3. Your Soul’s Plan by Robert Schwartz
  4. Many Lives, Many Masters by Dr Brian Weiss
  5. Soul Coaching: 28 Days To Discover The Real You by Denise Linn
  6. A Walk With A White Bushman by Laurens Van Der Post
  7. Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor E Frankl

Books with techniques to help you greatly shift your mindset and consciousness to allow more of your soul’s wisdom to guide your life each day

  1. ThetaHealing: An Extraordinary Healing Modality by Vianna Stibal
  2. The Tapping Solution:A Revolutionary System For Stress-Free Living by Nick Ortner (also available as a DVD)
  3. Change Your Life In 7 Days by Paul McKenna
  4. Recovery Of Your Inner Child: The Acclaimed Method For Liberating Your Inner Self by Lucia Capacchione
  5. Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
  6. The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You by Karla McLaren
  7. The Wizdom Within by Dr. Irving Oyle and Susan Jean (out of print but available)

I hope you enjoy them and I’d love to hear how you get on with them.  Remember to send me an email to request your free copy of the”Connect With Your Soul Vision” workbook!  My email is jacquimcginn(@)yahoo.co.uk

Here’s to getting clarity on what’s special and valuable about YOU!

Love Jacqui xxx

Trust Your Inner Nudges, Make Peace With Your Emotions

I was lucky enough to get to go to Glastonbury Festival this year.  I thought it was impossible because I don’t have the money to go at the moment and taking time off work would mean a drop in income too – eek!  But the opportunity arose to help out on a stall for a free ticket and I felt an inner nudge to say “yes” and take the risk.

And it totally paid off.  I had been getting more and more overwhelmed by everyday stresses around me and was losing my connection to spirit and to myself.  I wasn’t meditating enough or looking after my energy enough and it made my emotions go up and down all over the place.

Coldplay

I knew intuitively that Coldplay’s performance would be extra special for me and would contain some kind of synchronistic message.  Sure enough, their sacred geometry symbolism and heart-centred songs lifted me out of the stuckness and injected me with enough high energy to connect back with my true self.  And during the performance, “The Guest House” by Rumi was read out, which I posted about here a short while ago.  I knew it was telling me to focus my work on emotions now. Helping people to heal old, stuck emotions dragging them down and to create better, healthier relationships with emotions so that everyone could experience the bliss and joy that I was experiencing during the concert.  My new style of session that I’m practising now is more focused on releasing these old emotions to help clients bring more energy to the present.  So the performance was the much needed “me-time” that my body and soul had been crying out for and a beautiful affirmation of what’s waiting on the other side of all those stuck emotions.

Peace Dome

Glastonbury Peace Dome

Glastonbury Peace Dome

The Peace Dome up by the Stone Circle was the 2nd most healing place for me.  Unable to sleep at night with all the all-night partying going on around, I took myself off to meditate here.  The flame inside the peace dome is one originally lit from the fires after the Hiroshima bombing.  Japan is close to my heart because I lived there for over 9 years and built up and amazing life with amazing friends and coworkers.  I lived in Yokohama but I visited Hiroshima with my best friend and we fell in love with it.  To me, it is the wisest place on Earth in terms of peace.  Humanity’s worst creative expression was unleashed and the atmosphere of the place is one of reverence for life.  It’s a living appeal to end the use of atomic weapons because the consequences have been so painfully experienced and deeply felt.  Unimaginable suffering is caused to all who survive.  And whatever we do to anyone else, we do to ourselves.

And yet, underneath all of our “rational” international policies are centuries of unresolved hurt and failures to forgive and leave the past in the past.  Each of us creates the world we live in with the vibrations we create through our thoughts and emotions, it’s not just politicians and it’s not really fair to blame them alone.  Peace can only be a practical possibility when each of us takes responsibility for the thoughts and feelings that make up our particular vibration and choose to live the conscious journey of transmuting them to live more and more connected lives.  We are more well equipped than ever before with insights, healing modalities, scientific studies and ways to connect en masse.  Once we reach a critical mass of people committed to releasing the past and daring to create better futures, the positive changes will ripple out and inspire the rest to find out where all the health, abundance and happiness is coming from and how they can access it too.

The Peace Dome is a sacred space that invites connection and reflection and to light candles in the dark.  It helped me process and release all the pent-up emotions and brought me back to my authentic self on the other side.  The part of me that truly knows we’re all connected and we’re all sparks of one divine source.

But I believe we mustn’t jump to that place without honouring the past – fully receiving its lessons and allowing the appropriate emotions to flow.  Without this conscious process, we’re by-passing the learning and just ignoring a vital, life-affirming part of ourselves.  And life is so much richer when we embrace the whole of this being human.

🎶 saying it’s true, it’s not what it seems
leave your broken windows open
and in the light just streams
and you get a head, a head full of dreams
you can see the change you wanted
be what you want to be 🎶

  • Coldplay, “A Head Full of Dreams”