What if all of the darker emotions had vital messages for us?

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What if envy had a vital message?  

 What if all of the darker emotions like rage, shame, anger even hatred had vital messages for us?  

What if being true to yourself means honouring all of the emotions?

Emotions are metaphorically the element of water within us.  The idea of the 4 Elements appears in many traditions and cultures around the world.  The Kabbalah, Astrology, The Tarot, Native American wisdom – all of these use the idea that we’re made up of the 4 basic elements of earth, water, air and fire.  These 4 elements correspond to different part of our earthly human selves:

Earth – the physical body

Water – the emotions

Air – thoughts and beliefs, the intellect

Fire – our creativity, imagination, intuition and psychic ability 

Having total wellbeing means that all 4 elements are working in harmony with each other and are balanced.  The problem we have in western societies is that the air element tends to overpower all the others.  In many education systems, intellectual achievement is valued over everything else.  But wiser schools and colleges know that creativity (fire), movement in the physical body (earth) and emotional intelligence (water) are just as vital to our overall intelligence as pure academic work is.

And the problem in a lot of spiritual circles is that there’s a jump from air to fire without the grounding and wisdom of water and earth.  It’s what leads to spiritual by-passing and stopping legitimate expression of emotion that leads to being wholly human and to fully healing deep wounds.

The Deeper Wisdom Of Darker Emotion

The darker emotions (water) like envy, anger, fear and shame are only darker because we rarely bring them into the light of awareness.  But when we take the time to listen to their messages, they can give us invaluable insights to navigate whatever we’re facing and find the truth of it.  The deeper truth is always healing.

Whenever I feel one of the darker emotions come up, my first place to look it up is Karla McLaren’s excellent book “The Language of Emotions”.   And her incredible research and experience will always guide me home.  

Emotions are responses to our environment – both the external environment (around our physical bodies) and in response to our internal beliefs and thoughts.  When we get the thinking parts of our minds to connect up with and work with the emotional parts of our minds, we get more control over our state and can move through problems and issues with more ease.  Life is richer and fuller.  The elements of air and water work together in harmony.

But when the thinking part of the mind is cut off from the emotions, we can buy into collective thinking and ideas that stunt our own development and keep us small or even deluded about the effects of what we’re doing.  

For example, the collective idea that emotions are primitive and dumb and should never be on show became a collective belief about emotions.   Living from this intellect-centred view shuts off a vital part of ourselves that brings integrity to our whole systems.  We have the evidence of what a lack of emotion does to us – humans can commit unspeakable acts of violence and cruelty when there is no regulation from emotions, such as in the case of some psychopaths, sociopaths and extreme narcissists.  

On a smaller level, in dealing with our own unconscious racism and prejudices, feeling shame is a gateway to having the kind of empathy that lets us really hear the stories of people experiencing our unconscious racism.  Then we can really make the kinds of changes that usher in a fairer world. 

An Example of Going Deeper into Envy

When I’ve noticed my own envy coming up about other people’s business successes, following the feelings of envy lead to far greater insight and far deeper healing.  Karla (the author of The Language of Emotions) differentiates between jealousy and envy.  She says that jealousy is about unfaithfulness or deceit in close relationships whereas envy is about “unfair distribution of resources or recognition”.  In my struggling days in my business, boy, oh boy did that resonate for me!  “Why do all these other business owners get to have thriving businesses (i.e. good income) and recognition when I’m struggling?”  The clue to answering this question my mind invented is in Karla’s empathic practice for dealing with envy:

Discern whether you’re responding to disloyalty and unfairness in others or to your own lack of self-regard and worthiness.  In either case, restore your boundaries first; then listen to your intuition and honor the anger and fear inside…envy.

The Language of Emotions, p.263

What an insight!  My envy was really about my own lack of self- regard and worthiness and it’s OK to feel that and to acknowledge it.  The inner work was to dive into it and see what guidance my intuition had for me.  Karla has another gem of an explanation of diving into envy:

When your envy is welcomed and channelled honorably, it will help you uncover unhealed issues and traumas that continue to haunt your present-day behavior.  p.276

When I did deep dive into it, sure enough, there was an unhealed trauma and belief about being abandoned.  Eventually when I dug even deeper after experiencing lots of the “darker” emotions like rage, shame, envy and even terror, I uncovered my deepest wound that was holding everything back so it could finally be returned to love.  The darker emotions were allies to help me safely go into the depths of the wound AND to be careful about who I kept close during that vulnerable healing journey.  

Don’t Pathologise Emotion – Instead Trust The Deeper Message

By taking the time to stop, listen in and honour the insights that come from the water and earth elements (the emotions and the body), it brings us into the present moment, it brings deep acceptance of life and it helps to honour all the variety and diversity of life experiences that we all have.  It helps create good boundaries between us so we can fully honour each others’ uniqueness.

And honouring that uniqueness brings richness and depth to life’s experiences.

So next time you feel one of those darker emotions, don’t pathologise it or think there’s something wrong with you.  Trust that the healthy water element in you has something important for you to notice.  Don’t rush it, give the water element space to flow and bring through it deep messages.  

If you need help, it’s wise to choose a practitioner that you feel safe with and that can demonstrate that they’ve done this deeper work themselves.  Trust that your subconscious mind will keep you safe and your intuition will help guide you to the right person for you.  And definitely get your hands on Karla’s incredible book or her insight-packed free articles on her blog. 

Trust In Yourself

Trust in…

  • your emotions
  • your body
  • your heart
  • your soul
  • your intuition
  • your spiritual gifts and abilities
  • your ability to change your thoughts
  • your ability to learn
  • your ability to set boundaries
  • your bullshit detector
  • your ability to heal the past
  • life’s wisdom
  • what life brings you
  • the idea of life happening for you
  • your ability to change the unconscious programmes running your life
  • your ability to ask for help from the right people
  • your ability to find the perfect people to help you with everything you need
  • your ability to discern who to trust and who not to trust
  • your life experiences as valuable lessons and insights to others
  • your ability to inspire others with your truth
  • your wildest, craziest dreams and visions

Trust in yourself, beautiful soul.  Trust in yourself.   <3

What Can Hypnotherapy Do For You?

My new certificate in hypnotherapy received on 20th January under the full moon <3

I’ve just qualified after 5 months of training in hypnotherapy formally. I was actually starting to work in hypnosis with my clients and found it was getting the best results to get clients to use their imagination to solve problems with my guidance. Now I’ve sharpened up my skills and have a bigger toolkit.

So how can it help you?

Well, hypnosis and hypnotherapy are fascinating processes that can work really well alongside spiritual healing. You might think of hypnotherapy as helping with problems like weight management, stopping smoking and anxiety or depression. But there’s more that hypnotherapy can do. If you know about The Law of Attraction teachings and manifesting, hypnotherapy can help uncover and change deep blocks to manifesting the life of your dreams too.

Blocks to Manifesting Dreams

To give you an example, during the training, I underwent really deep processes myself to help feel what they’re like for a client. Over the last few years, it’s felt like my life has been really held back and dragged back. No matter how many affirmations or healing sessions or inner work I did, or however many courses or coaches I invested in, that “held back feeling” just wasn’t shifting.

I knew I wasn’t expressing the whole of who I am. I knew I should really be more successful than I was and I tried everything to make it happen. Even my teacher was puzzled as to why I wasn’t more successful because I am bloody good at what I do. But those blocks were DEEP and they weren’t going to go without the depth of hypnotherapy. Energy healing went a long way to opening the door to finding my blocks to creating what I wanted, and then it was hypnotherapy that got to the root cause of the blocks to actually break them down. And I think the same will be true for many other natural healers. We’ve been healers since we were born and as healers, the first people we worked with were our families. Our healing skills got hidden in family dynamics as we tried to help our family members feel better.

My blocks were partially from trying to make my family feel better and partially from the helplessness of being an emotional child who didn’t feel understood. As a child, I had a “good girl” exterior but underneath it was a defiant streak! That defiant streak along with being a misery hoover for other people lead to that “stuck” and “held back” feeling that I was experiencing. My book writing is flying now after years of trying to get it down and I can see how my thoughts, actions and expectations had been holding me back in my business, in my life, in my book writing and in my relationships. I’m more assertive and comfortable asking for what I need and want without getting whingy or bitchy like I could do before (like a defiant child not trusting that she will get what she wants and needs, AND resenting that she’s carrying everyone else’s emotional baggage!)

Others who’ve been around me for a few years are noticing the shift in revealing my true self more and more as a result of the hypnotherapy work. I can see how I was trying to present a certain image of myself online that was more what I hoped other people would like and appreciate. But now I’m much more confident being really honest and showing up fully.

Life Improvements

And it’s not just me who’s benefitted. People with long-standing problems are finding relief and feeling so much better from the hypnotic tools I’ve been using. From people feeling miserable and down for years, to people who’ve had physical pain and discomfort eased in just one session.

So hypnotherapy can help with such a vast range of problems, it’s amazing. It usually goes back to thought patterns and behaviours that were created in early childhood – even physical problems can come from that too. Once you know how to unlock the subconscious mind and work with it, you see how it’s always been trying to help you. And it just needs a bit of help to change what it’s doing. And that change can happen fast.

If you’d like to chat with me about how I can help you or if my story resonates with you, do get in touch with me. You can contact me on jacqui@jacquimcginn.com or book yourself a free discovery session here: https://jacquimcginn.as.me/peacediscovery

Learning To Love Miserable Me

Being miserable is not something many people would associate with me. It’s funny how we can be perceived in one way but deep inside the polar opposite aspect exists. When I lived in Japan, people would describe me as “Akarui” (cheerful and bright in Japanese). I was even given a performance slot called “Happy, Lucky Jacqui Time” at a special needs school I worked at!! But for someone into wholeness as much as I am, I was going to have to embrace the piece of me that could be miserable, sooner or later. The opposite of that Happy, Lucky, Cheerful persona.

I don’t believe we’re here just to experience all the “positive” emotions. We’re here to experience the whole spectrum of emotion – misery, sadness, joy, happiness, anger, rage, contentment. And find the peaceful centre that lies at the heart of our true being. When we judge, condemn or criticise any pieces of ourselves, we’re not fully living. It doesn’t mean that we have to stay stuck in misery or anger, but it does mean that we don’t discount them from our human experience.

I was pretty attached to my cheerful persona. I’d get compliments on my smile. My cheerfulness would make people happy. So to get love and attention, I’d keep up the cheerful, smiley, laughing mask. But all the while, the piece of me that wanted to experience misery was doomed to stay locked up in the depths of my psyche. That cheerful persona was such a strong part of my identity that I completely rejected misery. And in rejecting misery, I was rejecting a piece of myself.

The Law of Attraction and Misery

The Law of Attraction teachings helped me to reject it and bury it even more. Misery wasn’t going to fit in the “positive vibe” model I was creating. I’m not blaming the Law of Attraction teachings – I know there’s truth in them. There’s just a piece of a bigger picture of spirituality. Perhaps you can relate to relate to trying too hard to be positive?

Now I see the Law of Attraction as a spiritual teacher who helps me reflect on what I’m creating and what I’m avoiding in my world. When things haven’t been going the way of my dreams and visions for a long time, I take a look at my inner world. Rejecting misery was at the heart of a lot of problems I was experiencing in my life.

Misery’s Paradox

It’s quite a paradox that accepting, loving and welcoming home my misery could lift my energy and vibration. But it’s true. Like anything that’s ignored and rejected, it grows stronger and more powerful in the shadows – desperate to be seen, acknowledged and loved for what it is.

My rejected misery was bringing me gifts the whole time. It taught me compassion. It taught me more about joy and happiness. And the tension between my accepted happiness and my rejected misery took me on a deep journey of inner exploration. I cleared out tons of old, stuck emotion and limiting beliefs while I struggled to find the source of my stuckness. I grew capable of holding the space for others to experience big emotions.

So, the little buried, rejected piece of me was a gift waiting for me to open it. To treasure it and to love it – exactly as it is.

What piece of yourself can you welcome home too? What gifts do you think it might bring with it?

The 5 Keys To Creating A #Vision That Works for You

A crucial part of The Law of Attraction is having a vision.  But both vision and the Law of Attraction are funny things!  I remember watching “The Secret” back in 2008 and I KNEW there was truth in it.  But I just couldn’t get it to work.  

Eventually I realised that the crucial part of The Secret was mentioned only once in the entire film/book.  Michael Beckwith said that your thoughts create your life, whether those thoughts are conscious or unconscious and that that’s the rub. 

So when it comes to creating a vision of what you want in your life, you have to get your unconscious thoughts on board too. And that’s what these 5 keys are getting at.  They’re aimed at a vision for a relationship but the basic idea applies to everything you want to create in your life.  

The 5 Keys

  1. Get clear on what you want by collecting examples of what makes you feel loved.  Go through past relationships but also extend that out to friendships, family and even encounters with people you meet briefly.
  2. Get clear on what you absolutely don’t want in your relationship.  Go ahead and write out every complaint that you have about every past relationship.  Every single behaviour that you never want to experience in your relationships ever again! 
  3. Here’s the important bit – change every single one into the behaviour or treatment that you DO want. Without this, your subconscious mind just has a picture of what you don’t want and has no idea what it is that you do want.  Your subconscious is like a computer that will output what you tell it to output without making assumptions that it’s bad or that it’s what you don’t want
  4. Put your two positive lists together so that you have a thorough vision of what you want.  This is powerful for your subconscious mind because it speaks 2 languages it understands – emotion and imagination.  So your subconscious mind knows what you want and can work with your conscious mind to make it happen. 
  5. Think about what you need to do allow this vision into your life and take inspired action.  this vision is a mirror of what you want in love.  If you want someone to accept you, you need to accept you first.  If you want someone to love your flaws, you need to love your flaws first and so on. 

How Does Money Connect With The Heart?

Money and Healing the Heart

Money and Healing the Heart

What’s on earth has money got to do with the heart?
Surely there’s no heart in money?

 Well, for those of us on the path, our finances are a rich place to explore where we have trapped, unprocessed emotions blocking our natural flow of universal energy (chi/ki/prana).  An important part of spiritual growth and raising our vibration is to open our hearts and heal them so that we can be vessels for unconditional love.  All of those old, unprocessed emotions are like frozen shards of energy that prevent the flow of love and energy in our lives.

Today I’m celebrating some small financial goals.  They are goals that have needed a little attention every week to built up to bigger goals and they’re also goals that have required some heart and soul searching to work on.  The first one is that I’ve finally got my credit card debt from 4 figures to 3 figures.  The other one is that I’ve saved up another £100 to add my emergency fund.

Why are these such emotional goals?

Well because a lot of debt creation and unhealthy spending habits are the result of limiting beliefs and a way of avoiding deeper emotional pain.  Many of us get the message from society that we’re just not enough and if we only had product X or Y or Z, we’d solve our problems and get the love and attention from people that we’re all craving.  The truth is that we don’t need to have or do or be anything to deserve to be loved.  Often our Inner Child is still searching for the unconditional love that our parents couldn’t quite show us.  Even the most well meaning of parents can give us the impression that we’re not quite enough to deserve their full love and attention.  And then our unconscious needs and emotions can be manipulated by those trying to sell their products – and at worst this can create debt as our fragile egos try to draw love to us.

I most certainly created my credit card debt on an ego basis of thinking that there were many things I “needed” to be “enough” in business and to present a certain image that I thought people would want from me.  I do feel some feelings of shame at having created this debt because someone who’s done as much inner work as I have “shouldn’t” have embarrassing debt.  But as I embrace my true path, I see more and more that it’s all about opening the heart as wide as possible and embracing all the rawness and darkness inside so we can heal it and open up to higher and higher levels of love.  My finances might not yet be bringing wealth in terms of money but they are certainly bringing a wealth of healing to my heart, which is bringing  more happiness and joy.

My debt shone a light on areas of my heart and mind that were frozen from past emotions.  My lack of having any savings or an emergency fund were a reflection of my habit of creating excess stress for myself because I somehow decided I didn’t deserve peace and happiness.

My financial freedom mentor has taught me how to get peace of mind from money and get myself out of debt.  As well as opening my heart more, it’s a deep process of creating strong foundations to build huge dreams and visions on.   You can find out more about her and watch an amazing free webinar by her here.

So my financial worries have been a great gift from beyond to open my heart.  If you can relate and are on the path but frustrated with problems that seem to be getting in your way, do contact me for a chat on how I can help you use them to open your heart and connect to your true self more.  I have a very special offer package on for a limited time.

Email jacquimcginn@yahoo.co.uk or call 07794 975304 to find out more and start opening your heart to greater inner peace and joy.

 

Trust Your Inner Nudges, Make Peace With Your Emotions

I was lucky enough to get to go to Glastonbury Festival this year.  I thought it was impossible because I don’t have the money to go at the moment and taking time off work would mean a drop in income too – eek!  But the opportunity arose to help out on a stall for a free ticket and I felt an inner nudge to say “yes” and take the risk.

And it totally paid off.  I had been getting more and more overwhelmed by everyday stresses around me and was losing my connection to spirit and to myself.  I wasn’t meditating enough or looking after my energy enough and it made my emotions go up and down all over the place.

Coldplay

I knew intuitively that Coldplay’s performance would be extra special for me and would contain some kind of synchronistic message.  Sure enough, their sacred geometry symbolism and heart-centred songs lifted me out of the stuckness and injected me with enough high energy to connect back with my true self.  And during the performance, “The Guest House” by Rumi was read out, which I posted about here a short while ago.  I knew it was telling me to focus my work on emotions now. Helping people to heal old, stuck emotions dragging them down and to create better, healthier relationships with emotions so that everyone could experience the bliss and joy that I was experiencing during the concert.  My new style of session that I’m practising now is more focused on releasing these old emotions to help clients bring more energy to the present.  So the performance was the much needed “me-time” that my body and soul had been crying out for and a beautiful affirmation of what’s waiting on the other side of all those stuck emotions.

Peace Dome

Glastonbury Peace Dome

Glastonbury Peace Dome

The Peace Dome up by the Stone Circle was the 2nd most healing place for me.  Unable to sleep at night with all the all-night partying going on around, I took myself off to meditate here.  The flame inside the peace dome is one originally lit from the fires after the Hiroshima bombing.  Japan is close to my heart because I lived there for over 9 years and built up and amazing life with amazing friends and coworkers.  I lived in Yokohama but I visited Hiroshima with my best friend and we fell in love with it.  To me, it is the wisest place on Earth in terms of peace.  Humanity’s worst creative expression was unleashed and the atmosphere of the place is one of reverence for life.  It’s a living appeal to end the use of atomic weapons because the consequences have been so painfully experienced and deeply felt.  Unimaginable suffering is caused to all who survive.  And whatever we do to anyone else, we do to ourselves.

And yet, underneath all of our “rational” international policies are centuries of unresolved hurt and failures to forgive and leave the past in the past.  Each of us creates the world we live in with the vibrations we create through our thoughts and emotions, it’s not just politicians and it’s not really fair to blame them alone.  Peace can only be a practical possibility when each of us takes responsibility for the thoughts and feelings that make up our particular vibration and choose to live the conscious journey of transmuting them to live more and more connected lives.  We are more well equipped than ever before with insights, healing modalities, scientific studies and ways to connect en masse.  Once we reach a critical mass of people committed to releasing the past and daring to create better futures, the positive changes will ripple out and inspire the rest to find out where all the health, abundance and happiness is coming from and how they can access it too.

The Peace Dome is a sacred space that invites connection and reflection and to light candles in the dark.  It helped me process and release all the pent-up emotions and brought me back to my authentic self on the other side.  The part of me that truly knows we’re all connected and we’re all sparks of one divine source.

But I believe we mustn’t jump to that place without honouring the past – fully receiving its lessons and allowing the appropriate emotions to flow.  Without this conscious process, we’re by-passing the learning and just ignoring a vital, life-affirming part of ourselves.  And life is so much richer when we embrace the whole of this being human.

🎶 saying it’s true, it’s not what it seems
leave your broken windows open
and in the light just streams
and you get a head, a head full of dreams
you can see the change you wanted
be what you want to be 🎶

  • Coldplay, “A Head Full of Dreams”

 

Energy Detoxing for Manifesting Your Highest Vision

Many people know about the Law of Attraction and the idea that what’s happening in our lives is a vibrational match to what’s going on in us.  But the difficulty with this is that a lot of our vibration is set by unconscious thinking pattens and old, stuck emotions waiting to be processed.  The great Swiss Psychiatrist and healer of the soul, Carl Gustav Jung said:

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” C.G. Jung

So in terms of the Law of Attraction, if you have a higher vision for your life and it doesn’t seem to be coming about, the chances are that life and your unconscious mind are cooperating to help you bring your unconscious issues into the light.  Once they’re in the light, you have the power to heal and process these issues so that they can stop weighing down your energy and help you vibrate at the level of your vision more and more.

But sometimes this process can feel like you’ve taken a step backwards before you move forwards.  I do warn my clients that even though they may feel great right after a session, they may well then experience emotions like anger or sadness for a short period of time.  It’s like an energy detox.  If you’ve ever tried a detox, you’ll know that as your body processes out the toxins, you can feel a bit off.  But once you’ve let the toxins flow away, your body can balance itself again.  It’s the same with the mind and with your energy.  The trick is to surrender and just let the energy flow.  If you try to resist, you just keep it in place.  If you let it go, it can do its thing and flow on by.

I was reminded of this today because I experienced very high energies last night at a talk that almost completely got rid of the stress and tension that I was holding in my body.  For most of this morning, I continued to feel empowered, free and stress-free but as I continued working, gradually the stress creeped in and then I even started having mild depressive thoughts when I got home.  It was like a longing for that higher vibration and a sadness that I wasn’t already living every day like that.  The main culprit was going on Facebook.  For some reason I was extra sensitive to what people were saying and extra self critical.

Then in a flash I remembered that that lady giving the talk last night said I would experience a lot of detoxing.  And it was like a weight was lifted.  Instead of fighting against the thoughts and emotions, I surrendered to them – knowing that actually it was just old, stuck energy coming into my conscious awareness so they could be acknowledged, processed and released – helping me to get closer and closer to the vibration of my big vision.

And now, I’m feeling more balance.  Someday I do hope to live most of my days at that wonderful high frequency, but for now I’m happy to keep diving deep and letting myself regularly detox.  I’m safe in the knowledge that I’m gradually raising my vibration in a sustainable way.  And safe in the knowledge that I’m practising what I preach to my clients and students.

If you have a sense that you’re moving towards a bigger vision but feel weighed down at the moment, I would love to help you.  Just get in contact using the form below and we can schedule a chat to see if my sessions are the right fit for you now.

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Freedom and the Inner Child

Last night I gave a talk and mini-workshop on Connecting with the Inner Child at Horndean Positive Living Group.

Connecting with your Inner Child is vital to creating your own version of heaven on Earth.  The Inner Child is the bridge between the ego (our false, small self) and the soul (our true, expansive self).  The Inner Child carries all the qualities that can help bring humanity forward –

  • curiosity
  • wonder
  • emotional expression
  • creativity
  • non-judgment
  • spontaneity
  • being immersed in the moment
  • imagination
  • vision
  • joy
  • vitality

In fact, these are qualities that spiritual development involves.  For example, from a spiritual development perspective, the art of manifesting encourages us to use all of these to turn our highest visions into reality.  We need imagination and vision to aim higher.  We need creativity to make it happen and be adaptable.  We need non-judgment, spontaneity, vitality and joy and to be immersed in the moment in order to detach from the outcome to let universal energies do their job.

But for so many of us, childhood was a time of restricting and shutting down all of these qualities.  It was a survival mechanism to adapt to the environment we were brought up in.  And because our unconscious minds were wide open, all of the learning and adaptation went deep, deep into our psyches.   It no wonder we have expressions like “a leopard can’t change its spots” and we create beliefs that “people don’t change” because the learning is so deeply ingrained that it can seem impossible to change.

However, deep and lasting change IS possible.  Everyone can recover all of these child-like qualities and live their own version of heaven.  But it isn’t an overnight process and it does require commitment to change.  Through deep healing practices like ThetaHealing we can change the deep seated learning and rewire the brain.  In my experience we also then need to process the old emotions that got repressed and blocked to release their energy and restore  our natural, healthy emotional flow.

And once we’ve done that, there is a freedom that comes.  We’re free from the burdens of the past.  We’re free to be joyful, spontaneous and vibrant.  We’re free to live life on our own terms.  We’re free to have fun.  We’re free to live the highest expression of our souls.  We’re free of judgment and restriction.  We’re free to thrive.

That kind of freedom is an expression of love. 

If you’d like to begin or continue your journey of connecting with your Inner Child, I’ll be running workshops in Eastleigh, Hampshire, UK.  The first one  is on 20th March, 2016.  Details are on my events page.

Fact or Influence? The Importance of

This morning I heard that today is supposed to be the most depressing day of the year.  It’s 2 weeks into the new year and around this time people get their credit card statements from Christmas and that’s what contributes to the general low feeling, apparently.  Then I heard it again on the radio this evening.

My own feelings have taken a tumble this evening and I’ve just knocked over a cup of peppermint tea.  It’s got me wondering – has the idea of it being the worst day of the year influenced my mood?  Has my unconscious mind gone “oh, right – most depressing day of the year – let’s make that happen”?  Or is it a fact?  Is it something that is true and my mind is just processing fact?

I don’t know.  But the idea of our unconscious minds being influenced is an interesting one to ponder and I think it’s a very important one.

I find the unconscious mind fascinating but I also find the influence others can have on our minds equally fascinating – and a little scary.  I’ve come across a few examples where minds have been influenced for negative reasons.  First, I’ve been reading Paul McKenna’s “I Can Make You Rich” and it’s been showing me just how much advertisers manipulate our unconscious minds to get us to buy things.  Second, after work today I saw today’s Sun newspaper front page trying to make Labour Leader Jeremy Corbyn look farcical in his attempts to reduce nuclear weapons and wondered how many people’s opinions of him have been manipulated by such strong opinion pieces.  Then finally tonight I was watching the “Making of a Murderer” series on Netflix and I watched the police unfairly influence a young, impressionable person’s mind and have him do what they wanted (I won’t give the details in case you want to watch the series).

How much control do we have of our own unconscious minds?  Because it’s unconscious, we can never really know.  But doing our best to notice when others are trying to influence our thoughts, feelings and actions is crucial to our personal fulfilment, happiness and spiritual growth.

How can we make sure we get as much control of our own unconscious minds as possible?  Well, I think that (perhaps counter-intuitively) it’s about reconnecting with our Inner Child.  I believe our Inner Child is the gateway to our authentic selves – our souls.  This is because it was largely in childhood that our minds were shaped by outside influences and cut us off from our authentic selves.  Spiritual teachings call this the creation of the ego.  But underneath all of that ego conditioning, our authentic selves (our souls) are still there waiting for us.  Our task is to connect with that greater part of ourselves as much as possible and release anything that blocks our connection to it.  As long as we stand firm in our truest selves, we are less likely to let others negatively influence our thoughts, feelings and actions.  Connecting with our Inner Child can be the bridge between the ego and the soul and can help us invite more of our soul into our everyday lives.

Imagine the future world we’d create together if more and more of us stood firm in our truest selves.  Free from influence by outside factors.  Free to make love the bottom line in all our decisions.